Let’s face it, we all want to be happy. We’re always chasing happiness in our next promotion, next vacation, or our next paycheck, but what we don’t realize is that those things bring us short term happiness. Long term happiness, happiness from within, should come from our day-to-day life. We should be happy ALL the time, not just a few times a day or week.
About a year ago I graduated from college, and was faced with the question of “what’s next?” I did a lot of self reflecting that summer, but what I realized is that I just want to be happy. In the past year I’ve done exactly that. I’ve stopped doing things that don’t make me happy, and started doing things that do.
Below are 6 things I did to be happy:
1. STOP DOING THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO DO
As women, we are always compelled to set up that lunch date, squeeze in a dog play date after work or make plans for Saturday night. But sometimes when the time comes, you just want to have a day off and THAT’S OKAY. So stop saying yes to everything, and learn to say no.
Even if you aren’t doing it to lose weight — everyone should be getting some physical activity. Even on days I don’t feel like getting in a hardcore workout, I just get on the treadmill and walk. It’s crazy how your mood can change instantly with just a little bit of exercise.
3. GO OUTSIDE
These days we spend most of our life indoors. in our office chairs, in the car, at home, etc. But when was the last time you went outside just to breathe a breath of fresh air? Experts say spending time outdoors can actually make you healthier (who knew!?) Not only does it make exercise easier, it can spur weight loss, increase brain function, reduce stress, and GET THIS, it actually helps us age gracefully. Plus, the extra vitamin D doesn’t hurt.
4. PAMPER YOURSELF
I can’t tell you how important this is. If getting a facial once a month makes you happy, do it. Even if it’s having a “spa night” at home, do something that relaxes your mind.
Something I love doing is getting my nails done. There’s just something about sitting at the salon and having that quality “me time” that makes me look forward to it. And because it is a pricier enjoyment, I save money by doing my own eyebrows at home. Instead of spending the $10 a week on getting my eyebrows threaded, I youtubed a simple tutorial and now I’m able to splurge on my manicure every 3-4 weeks.
5. KEEP LEARNING
Just because you graduated college, or got that extra certification and you’re not physically in a school doesn’t mean that you’ve learned everything. Learn from others, look up things you wouldn’t normally research, read the news, READ A BOOK (or listen to one). There’s so much knowledge out there to take in.
It’s actually exciting when a group of friends is talking about a current event and you know exactly what they’re talking about– so if you are constantly learning you are able to jump in and give your opinion.
6. BE KIND (TO YOURSELF & OTHERS)
A little kindness can still go a long way. Remember when paying it forward was a big trend? Well, even if not everyone is doing it anymore, it still brings you the same satisfaction. So, buy someone else a coffee, or give them a sweet compliment. Not only will it make their day, but maybe it’ll even make yours.
Another person you need to be kind to is yourself. We all have things we may need to work on, but remember, we are our worst critics. Don’t be so hard on yourself. If you are kind to yourself, and have self-respect, others will respect you too. If you’re constantly putting yourself down then others will see nothing wrong with it either.