Bad days are inevitable, they happen to everyone. It can happen so quickly; one minute everything is fine then something doesn’t work out and the next thing you know your mood is snowballing downhill. Because of this, the steps you take once you realize that things aren’t going as you planned are imperative to overcoming a bad day.
1. PAUSE AND RECOGNIZE WHAT’S HAPPENING
I think the hardest part of having a bad day is recognizing that there is a problem. Your best bet is to take a deep breath, and look at take a step back. Everyone is different, but here are some of my tell-tell signs that I’m going down the path of having a bad day.
- I become short-tempered and snappy with my loved ones.
- I look for quick fixes, like unhealthy foods or mindless shopping.
- I want to give up.
2. ASK FOR HELP
Once you’ve realized that there is a problem, I feel like it’s important to talk to someone about it. I’m fortunate enough to have such amazing friends and family that I can always rely one. Also, my husband is around all the time so I can just quickly call him and explain to him what’s wrong. I also think the other person can see the problem from a different point of view and might have a solution that maybe you can’t see from close up. So be it your husband, boyfriend or even a close girlfriend, there is NOTHING wrong with asking for help.
3. MAKE A CHOICE
Bad days are real and unfortunately, we all have them. Good news is, “having a bad day” is most of the time a choice in attitude than a result of our circumstances.
However, the bad news is, that changing your attitude can be harder than you expect (at least for me it always seems that way). It requires letting go of whatever that went wrong in the first place, and then letting go of the emotions it triggered — hurt, frustration, or disappointment– and making a commitment to move forward.
I’ll be the first to admit, moving on and letting it all go is not ALWAYS the choice I make. Sometimes it’s just one of those dwelling days and you need to just take the rest of the day off and start fresh tomorrow, and that’s okay. But if you are ready to make the choice to overcome your bad day, then you need to commit to your choice and accept whatever’s happened. Draw a line in the sand, and get ready for your fresh start.
Do you think that these steps are important to getting over a bad day, what would you do?